All too true

[anagramofbrat]

Bit of an email from Nuke today:

God doesn't give you the people you want; He gives you the people you NEED... to help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you and to make you into the person you were meant to be.

There's a bit of well-timed perspective. *sigh* Yeah, no way of avoiding it, this week is gonna be full of the squirm inducing think. And goddamn it *sigh* I still need to go get my wrist tattoo.

In other news, I am suiting up and heading to Haven tonight. I need to get my EXTREME FLAIL on.

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[lysscat.livejournal.com]

Mmmaybe we could carpool? You don't usually drink there, right? I'll gladly pay gas money for a DD.

[anagramofbrat.livejournal.com]

oh, my earlier comment to this didn't post - basically it was me wibbling about driving down after I terrified myself driving home. I just decided we're going, damn the torpedoes. Show up at my house @ 10:15 if you wanna ride.

[cell23.livejournal.com]

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[cara-chapel.livejournal.com]

Saw you on friendsfriends... I can't help but interject an alternative perspective. I wonder about the accuracy of this statement; did I really NEED to become a bitter, alienated, rage-filled person without hope who has finally had the ability to trust and/or care about men mercilessly flayed out of me at the hand of more men than I care to count? And what about all the other people in this position, only worse? For example, people who are raped as children by parents or other authority figures and permanently scarred. When I think of these things, I can't help but doubt that statement.

Sorry to subject you to my own existential dilemma. But I don't think I want to believe in a God who would rationalize deliberately hurting people in the service of some mysterious future goal that may never be discovered and may not even ultimately be intended for the service of the person being hurt. And I know nothing about your situation, but I do hope you won't let yourself be hurt in relationships and rationalize it, enduring the abuse, because someone told you "Well, God must mean for it to achieve something useful."

Good luck!

[cell23.livejournal.com]

You know, I gotta back that up. Because I'm pretty sure that, say, Sharon Tate didn't need a particular set of people "sent" to her. Predestination excuses all manner of atrocity, or at least attempts to do so.

[anagramofbrat.livejournal.com]

*chokes back catty "way to miss the point, both of you" response*

I didn't take it that way. It more made the "people are the sum total of their experiences" bits of my head light up. I think I see it in the same family as "that which doesn't kill you makes you stronger" thereby making Sharon Tate inapplicable.)

Also, I don't exactly believe in God, but amazingly this doesn't hamper my ability to pull some kind of meaning out of an ostensibly religious statement.

[cell23.livejournal.com]

It's not missing the point if harm is explicitly included in the conditions listed which are ostensibly part of shaping you to a preordained end.

[anagramofbrat.livejournal.com]

Can't temper steel without fire.

uuugh!

[badrahessa.livejournal.com]

well fuck THAT god ...

Re: uuugh!

[anagramofbrat.livejournal.com]

*sigh* right, I _am_ the only person that saw anything positive in that quote. I'm sorta sorry I posted it now.

Re: uuugh!

[badrahessa.livejournal.com]

*heh* sorry ... just in the wrong headspace to take that particular form of god-like manipulation :P Just because it has merit doesnt mean I have to like it.

You're finding the positive in a negative ... don't stop!