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Happy belated Coming Out Day.
I am queer/bisexual. I use both labels interchangably: queer because while I pretty firmly identify as female, I know and love people all across the gender spectrum, bisexual because it's the label I've identified with the longest, and well, I'm lazy and it takes less explanation to "normal" people. Both, I think are important identities to own - bisexual because yes, it's a valid orientation, just because I'm currently in a relationship with a man doesn't mean that I give up the rest of my identity. Queer because getting out of a binary system of gender is a good thing. (And reminds me to do so as well.)
I am kinky. Not just in the sexual implications of the word, though that of course applies. But I like thinking outside the box, thinking three steps to the right or left of what's considered mainstream, I love exploring these things, I love probing all points of view, including normative ones. And yes, I love dressing up in tight things and making people hurt in happy ways, and having them return the favor.
I am polyamorous. This is the identity I've had the most trouble with, but I am. Love is a gift in all forms, and one too rarely given. It is also infinite and boundless - to say I will only ever love one person seems selfish. To have another expect that of me even more so. I believe in trust, faithfulness, fidelity and loyalty, but do not see how these things cannot apply to more than one.
I am spiritual. I used to identify as pagan, and I think I'm still mostly that, but i think spiritual allows for more questioning of something being out there at all and if so what. I believe in magic in the sense that there are things and experiences not explainable by science yet. I'm not so sure on some greater being out there running the whole show, but I'm willing to accept that some things are currently beyond the realm of human understanding and explanation. I pray sometimes, just in case anything/anyone is listening and feels like paying attention, and like going to church/synogogue/rituals, but I'm not religious. I find it kinda interesting that having come damn close to dying last year, I'm far more concerned with making my life right here right now as full and good as possible than about worrying about an afterlife that probably won't happen.
I am out. Really the thing I've come to deeply appreciate more and more is I have always had the life that allowed me to live out loud. I have never hidden any of the above, nor truly felt that I had to, and considering people have died over less, I'm constantly thankful for the friends, family and work environment that I currently have going. It saddens/angers me that others do not share my safety in that regard, and for that, I'm glad that Coming Out Day exists, to show both those who are like me and those that would suppress them that we aren't alone. Deal with it.
I am queer/bisexual. I use both labels interchangably: queer because while I pretty firmly identify as female, I know and love people all across the gender spectrum, bisexual because it's the label I've identified with the longest, and well, I'm lazy and it takes less explanation to "normal" people. Both, I think are important identities to own - bisexual because yes, it's a valid orientation, just because I'm currently in a relationship with a man doesn't mean that I give up the rest of my identity. Queer because getting out of a binary system of gender is a good thing. (And reminds me to do so as well.)
I am kinky. Not just in the sexual implications of the word, though that of course applies. But I like thinking outside the box, thinking three steps to the right or left of what's considered mainstream, I love exploring these things, I love probing all points of view, including normative ones. And yes, I love dressing up in tight things and making people hurt in happy ways, and having them return the favor.
I am polyamorous. This is the identity I've had the most trouble with, but I am. Love is a gift in all forms, and one too rarely given. It is also infinite and boundless - to say I will only ever love one person seems selfish. To have another expect that of me even more so. I believe in trust, faithfulness, fidelity and loyalty, but do not see how these things cannot apply to more than one.
I am spiritual. I used to identify as pagan, and I think I'm still mostly that, but i think spiritual allows for more questioning of something being out there at all and if so what. I believe in magic in the sense that there are things and experiences not explainable by science yet. I'm not so sure on some greater being out there running the whole show, but I'm willing to accept that some things are currently beyond the realm of human understanding and explanation. I pray sometimes, just in case anything/anyone is listening and feels like paying attention, and like going to church/synogogue/rituals, but I'm not religious. I find it kinda interesting that having come damn close to dying last year, I'm far more concerned with making my life right here right now as full and good as possible than about worrying about an afterlife that probably won't happen.
I am out. Really the thing I've come to deeply appreciate more and more is I have always had the life that allowed me to live out loud. I have never hidden any of the above, nor truly felt that I had to, and considering people have died over less, I'm constantly thankful for the friends, family and work environment that I currently have going. It saddens/angers me that others do not share my safety in that regard, and for that, I'm glad that Coming Out Day exists, to show both those who are like me and those that would suppress them that we aren't alone. Deal with it.
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Date: 2009-10-13 03:47 am (UTC)From:One of the best parts (maybe the only good part) of retiring for m the Navy was the back in the mind fear that someone, someday, would see me acting "inappropriately" with another guy... I'm not currently out at work, because I don't liek talking about my personal life at all, and wouldn't even come out as straight if given the chance.
I still identify as bi, because that's what I grew up with, but lately I've been identifying more with a term I came across on Fetlife: "heteroflexible". This might be more honest, since while I enjoy getting physical with men, I don't really see myself entering a long term commitment with one. Of course, now that I said that, "Mr. Right is going to pop up... (if only it were that easy!)
Are all bi people somewhat kinky, or just a higher percentage than normal?
Oh, and this is one of the rare opportunities to use this icon... :)
::edited to remove typos... that'll teach me to post at 11:0 pm...::
::looks at clock... DOH!::
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Date: 2009-10-13 07:14 pm (UTC)From:Hear hear!